We have two choices with emotions in our lives. Choice one is to feel our feelings. Choice two is to repress our feelings. Today I had an amazing session with Megan Sillito. The anger I felt today was so intense. She allowed me to fully feel my emotions with happiness and peace. It was an amazing reminder that I can choose to feel my emotions without a negative connotation behind them.
I notice I do this more and more. The more I fully embrace how I feel the more open space is created. The more authentic relationships I create with my clients and the more present I am in my relationships.
Getting out of my head and into my body can be conflicting at times. Last week I created a conflict with a close friend of mine as my mind got wrapped around stories and what I wanted to say. When I chose to really “feel my feelings” the conflict resolved itself and my friend chose to feel as well. It was amazing. I felt more love for her than I ever have. The connection was one of the soul and was about ultimate truth.
So today I have felt much anger and sadness. I have chosen to play with it. As a result, I was so present with my dog client this afternoon it was amazing. I arrived at my clients house feeling angry. I chose to breath. Then when I entered into the house instead of ignoring the anger I chose to be crazy. I told the dog I felt angry. I said it multiple times until it past and sadness came. The anger was covering up the sadness. So I cried and the dog came and laid with me. It was beautiful. I realized in that moment that I had chosen so many times to repress my emotions when working with this dog. I would choose to put on a mask that I was feeling fine on days that I really wasn’t.
So today I chose differently. The bond I created with the dog was so amazing. When we left for our walk anger arose again so I chose to run and run. It was so fun to feel my anger while running. The dog ran with me and enjoyed it so much. She was so happy. I was laughing and felt so open. I shifted to happiness and presence. We worked on recalls and leash walking. The session was amazing. I also noticed the more I allowed myself to be who I was the more I was giving permission to this gorgeous dog to be who she is.
I noticed after I left I felt more sadness. I chose to go home and turn on some sad music and dance. Seiki, my dog was so happy to dance with me. We had fun with my sadness. He loved it and I enjoyed it as well.
So the moral of the story is to feel your feelings. It does great things to your body. Most of all it allows you to create open space so that you can create wonderful space for your dog….amazing presence, a soul connection, easeful training, etc. When you repress emotions training becomes so very very hard. Create it be easeful. Use any of the tools I have stated above and most of all have FUN doing it!
Johanna Teresi, Professional Owner and Trainer of Four Legged Scholars LLC