Hmmmm…where do I begin? I am taking a wonderful course called ALC (Accelerated Learning Community). This course is instructed by Annabeth Christie, Megan Sillito and Mary Tebbs. Megan and Annabeth are both life coaches for Life Works. They teach amazing classes on Tuesday nights called Life Skills. I am attending Life Skills as well. I want to begin by sharing with you some amazing information I have learned through these classes from these wonderful people.
Awhile I ago I also began Life Coaching with Marinna Siri. She and I worked together and we established an amazing relationship that shifted me in my life more than I can even describe in words. I came to her with the intention of growing my dog training business. I realized that there is so much more to this than just marketing.
What I learned and I am still learning:
Be present. The past and the future are totally outside of our control.
Be authentic. Express how you feel..verbally, through body language, through a dance, etc.. Give yourself full permission to feel what you are feeling.
When you are in a relationship with anyone a client, a lover, a friend take full responsibility. Blame does no good. Claiming responsibility without blame allows you to claim your power. For example: “I am responsible for creating a fun and loving relationship with every single client I have.” I have control over the way I interact with them and I value this lesson very much.
Keep your commitments, change the commitments that you didn’t really want to make anyways and recommit. Double check in your body if this is something that you really want to do in the first place.
Commit to joy in your life. When you move away from joy recommit.
Breath through your belly. This helps your entire body to shift into a more resourceful state of mind.
Move your body. Dance. When you do this you give yourself permission to be creative and to formulate ideas. A stiff body is much harder to create solutions from.
Know your stories. It can be beneficial to know the stories that you have in your subconscious mind. Realize that they are the past and commit to being fully within yourself in the present moment. You are you and you are not your stories.
Here is a personal experience. I had a story in my subconscious mind that stated “I fear people are judging me.” This morning I formulated this story strongly in my head. Then I became in-tune to every body sensation that I had (stagnant breath, tight belly, pain in my right ear, tension in my shoulders, etc.). I became aware of what emotions were tied to each of these sensations. They were anger, sadness and fear. I fully allowed myself to feel every single one of these emotions. I exaggerated each one. As I did this, I allowed the emotions to shift.
Then I went farther and look at when this story was first created which was in kindergarten. A girl named Lisa came over to me and claimed that this was her kitchen during play time. I felted judged and that I must be quiet and allow myself to be controlled. I also asked who in my life did I allow myself to formulate this story from. The answer was my dad. I truly know and believe that my dad is very loving. He did have a temper and would criticize me frequently.
I allowed myself to put these stories in the past and recommitted to being fully authentic in every relationship I have especially in groups of people (my fear seems greater when I am in groups of people).
As I write more and more and I realize that I write what I am inspired to write. I realize that some people may not understand what this has to do with owning a business or with training your personal dog. I will keep it this answer simple.
The more authentic and present we are with ourselves, the more love we can create in any relationship with ourselves, with other people, or with our dogs. The more love we create in these relationships the closer we become and the easier our relationships become. As a dog trainer it is important for my clients to understand that training our dogs is small part of a bigger picture. If we practice the above exercises training is easy. It is no longer stressful or controlling.
God Bless all of You!
-Johanna Teresi, Professional Dog Trainer and Owner of Four Legged Scholars LLC